Renowned Ghanaian counselor, Counselor Adofoli has advised young people against telling people to wait for them to be ready for relationships.
According to him, the future is unknown so telling someone to wait for you is not a prudent thing to do as an individual.
He made this known in a recent post which reads;
“DON’T LET ANYONE WAIT FOR YOU IN THE NAME OF MARRIAGE
Written by Counselor Adofoli
It often happens that when one approaches another in the name of marriage or relationship or dating, and the proposal is not accepted, the rejected person is eager to find out why they were turned down. If it appears that the one they want is not ready for the relationship they sought for, they are quick to give these answers “I am willing to wait for you to be ready”, others reply “if you are willing to wait for me, then we can have a relationship in future”.
Such decisions often lead to heart breaks. When the supposed time for the relationship is due, it’s either you are no longer the type of person they want, or they are in love with someone else, etc., making the one who told them to wait to be seen as a liar and a bad person for wasting their time or leading them on.
One thing people forget is that, no human being has power or control over times and seasons. You don’t even know what will happen in the next hour. You can plan, forecast but the outcome can always be something different.
So, it is not prudent to tell someone to wait for you to be ready for relationships. The future is unknown. Again, man can propose but it’s the will of God that will prevail. The best you can do when you are not ready, is to tell anyone who wants to be in a relationship with you now to move on.
If such a person insists on waiting for you, tell them to wait on God and not you, for only God has control over the future, not you. If it is the will of God that the two should be together, nothing on earth can stop it and if it’s not the will of God for the two to be together, nothing can make that happen successfully.
The future is in the hands of God, so direct them to the One who holds the future, who knows the end from the beginning. It’s not in your place to predict the future. When you learn to direct your suitor to God, even if you change your mind about them in the future, your suitor won’t have to blame you. Because they had no expectations and you had not asked them to wait for you, they won’t have their hearts broken by you.
Sometimes, some people are just not honest. They know very well from day one that the one proposing to them is not their preferred future spouse and there is no way they will accept their proposal or end up with them, yet they go ahead to tell them “if they can wait for them…”
Some give long years as the waiting period, thinking that will discourage or push the suitor away.
But unfortunately the suitor agrees to wait. Soon you behave in a certain way just to push them away but they refuse to go due to the assurance given. You are not being fair to them; you are putting them through pain just for loving you or wanting to be with you. The painful part of their process is knowing they can’t be with you or will never be with you.
You don’t need to lie to the one who loves you or wants to marry you or be in a relationship with you. Come clean, if telling the truth makes you an enemy, it’s far better to be an honest enemy than being a fake friend or fake lover or fake future spouse/partner.
In conclusion, “Jesus said to them, “The times and occasions are set by my Father’s own authority, and it is not for you to know when they will be” – Acts 1:7 (GNT).”